You can use mediation at any stage you feel it would help; whether you are living together, separated, divorced, during ongoing divorce or court proceedings.
Mediation can also help those already separated to work out new arrangements in changed circumstances, as well as helping wider family members such as grandparents.
How you will share your time with the children, keeping each other informed about the children, making major decisions about your children now and in the future, strengthening communications as co—parents.
Sorting out a financial settlement; what happens to the family home, how should assets be divided and what happens to the liabilities. How should pensions be treated. What level of financial support is needed and how much should be paid for child support.
Reconsidering arrangements that are no longer working.
On average there are between three to five sessions for all issues mediation (finance and children’s issues) and between two to three sessions for children’s issues, although the number of sessions will also depend on what you want to discuss and how complicated matters are.
Usually meetings are held together although sometimes people prefer not to see each other particularly where there has been intimidation or emotional distress. If this is the case we can offer ‘shuttle mediation’ so that each of you will be in separate rooms and the mediator will move between rooms.
We find out from each of you in confidence about any concerns for your safety and well-being. If it is decided that mediation is to go ahead we can arrange for you to wait separately from your ex-partner and to arrive and leave at different times so you do not meet.
In some situations you might have ‘shuttle’ mediation so you are in completely separate rooms and this can be discussed with your mediator at the MIAM or at any stage necessary.
On occasions mediation may be assessed as unsuitable where there has been abuse and we may suggest you seek legal advice on the best way to resolve matters and find the support you may need.